Some people have the fear of winning rather than the fear of failure. It is astonishing to see that how our mind construes and misconstrues our desires and our emotions. Examining them closely, you can take the example of a recent match you have won – Whether it is a tennis, squash, football or cricket match is irrelevant. You are reeling in joy about your latest victory,when suddenly at the back of your mind, you have a nervous anxiety about how you will uphold this victory. It is not about how others will look at your future success or failure, it is more about how you will look at it. Sometimes, this fear is so pronounced that you may deliberately avoid entering a competition or picking up a great challenge, just because, let alone what will happen if you lose, but God forbid, if you win it, what are you going to do next. There are two thoughts about this. For some people, there is nothing beyond the prevailing challenge. One it is achieved, they do not wish to go further. They prefer ‘resting in their laurels’ or ‘leaving when on a high.’ Sometimes, this could save one from eventual terrible bruises to the ego, in case of failure.
The fear of failure, on the other hand, could work to your advantage, if the fear is in moderation. It propels you to work harder, take calculated risks and prepare for obstacles. On the other hand, it could mitigate your risk taking ability completely, if even it is in pursuit of a much higher goal.
Victory and defeat, therefore, one can safely conclude are states of mind. If you are constantly in the state of victory, you mind responds accordingly. Perception changes, attitudes changes, there is a paradigm shift in observation, action and conclusion. The final result will always be a success!
Steve Jobs shares three stories from his life that changed him as a person and paved the way for a success unmatched in his time. The first story about connecting the dots narrates how Steve’s innate sense of curiosity and intuition proved priceless fro him later in life. The second story about love and loss talks about how Steve entered one of the most creative periods of his life following the realization that he still loved what he did even after being fired from his own company. ” The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything,” says Steve nostalgically. His third story about death talks about how death became an important tool for him to make the big choices in life. “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right,” was a quote Steve read at age 17 and ever since it had been his credo for living a life full of purpose.